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Thoughts & Thinking "The Real Secret" - To Health And Happiness
What is "The Secret' I mean the "Real Secret".I want to address something today that affects every part of everyone’s life - your thoughts and thinking. As a clinical therapist that sees over 100 people per week with issues ranging from anxiety, depression and stress to helping them overcome addiction, lose weight or increase sports performance, I began to discover early in my
practice the “missing link” in order to be able to create dramatic, positive changes in those who came to me for help. In many cases, I was their last resort.
I quickly learned the root cause of their problems. In every case it went back to their thoughts and thinking.
Your thoughts are like watching a movie. If you watch a happy movie you will feel happy. If you watch a sad movie you will feel sad. It really is an easy concept to follow. What people don’t realize it that not only can they change the movie but that they own the theatre!
If we went outside a theatre and 4 movies were coming out same time, one an action adventure, one a sad love story, another a comedy, and the other a scary movie, we could tell who went to what movie by the looks on their faces and their body movements.
When a client walks in the look on their face and the way they move tell me quickly what they are playing in their head.
I asked a client one time, “If the voice in your head isn’t yours, who’s is it'” She replied, “My Mother!”
If the voice in your head isn’t yours whose is it and where did it come from'
As a child we can learn instruments, languages, sports, and school. But we also believe in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy!
As a child we absorb our environment. We become what we are told and what we see. Unfortunately the people we are modeling and mirroring have their own issues and problems and they pass them on to us.
As the saying goes, there is no manual that comes with having a child. I often say that the cord is not cut in the delivery room. The cord is cut when they walk you to the hospital door, wave farewell and say, “Have a good life!” I remember driving away with this little baby saying to myself, this should be illegal! I know I was more prepared than most people but what an eye opener!
All of us started this way. Our thoughts develop through a system know as ‘default.’ There is no defined or set system of mind development. It’s all what we absorb, the good, the bad, and the ugly!
The real problem with thoughts is negativity and the way people learn the language of thoughts. Through a person’s life they grow up always being told, “No, won’t, can’t, don’t,” etc.
The real problem is that the mind cannot process a negative. Let me give you an example. If I say, “Don’t think of a pink elephant.” You must think of a pink elephant. You just did think of a pink elephant!
Today’s world is so filled with negativity that there is little positive in the media and the world around us. Thinking really is a 3 legged chair. It’s what we say, what we think, and what we surround ourselves with that becomes our thoughts and thinking.
The nice thing that I was able to discover was that it is actually quite simple to create change in your mind when you know how. The results can be quite dramatic, profound, and instantaneous.
We must work with what we say, what we think and what we surround ourselves with. Our surroundings include what we read, what we watch and what or who we listen to.
Recently, a young woman came to me. She was suffering miserably with a list of health ailments, insomnia, gastro intestinal, depression and weight issues. Doctors told her she needed to get used to living with all the ailments since there was nothing that could be done. What they should have said was that there nothing THEY could do.
In the first session we were able to find the root causes and began to lift them. I taught her the power of thoughts and how they mold and produced her future. Within days she was sleeping and started exercising. Soon after her stomach problems disappeared, her weight dropped and she found herself in a new wonderful relationship. She was also able to discontinue her meds. All this was done by changing her thoughts and her thinking.
The power of your mind should never be underestimated. It is truly the “Final Frontier”. "The Real Secret" is not what you wish but instead your everyday thoughts. I encourage you to explore the power of your mind and live the life you desire and deserve.
Let me show you a very simple and easy thing to do today that will begin to help you instantly. Lets work on one of the 3 legs of that chair. Are you a news follower' The assignment is to limit all news you take in. I call it a ‘news fast.’ For a period of one week do not read the paper, watch the news or listen to talk radio. After you do this you will feel results that you never realized were possible because no longer are you giving your emotional energies to the worst problems in the world. It will be your first conscious choice that will control your thoughts and thinking. You will love the results.