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Parents Should Know This
http://babytale.blogspot.comYou are the only person in your child’s life who has a considerable impact on his future.
Did you know this'
Brain size grows to 50% in the first 4 years and only 30% more in the next 4 years and upto 100% till the age of 18 years.
It is during the first eight years of your childs life you can nurture your child into a genius. Unfortunately these are the years when we fail to impart the require stimuli for maximum brain development.
If we can study and scientifically understand what impact every external stimuli has on the development the brain, we could easily provide the child with those inputs which can mould him into genius.
If the soil is infertile , nothing can make the seed grow.
The fundamental requirement for any progeress is PMA
ie. A Positive Metal Attitude.
PMA is the fertile soil your brain requires to grow anything, and, you need to develop it first if you would like your child to have it.
Carrying a positive mental attitude will not only help you grow mentally but also gift you with better health; after all, it’s the mind which directs your body.
Yes Parent, Great Parent
A UCLA survey from a few years ago reported that the average one year
old child hears the word, No!, more than 400 times a day! Another study estimates that the average child hears the word no or don't over 148,000 times while growing up, compared with just a few thousand yes messages.
Negative words are de-edifying. Of course we need to use firm words at times and alert our child to emergencies and dangers, but the habitual ‘no's’ begin hamper the child's spirit. Parents should say YES as much as possible, without compromising your limits and snap the ‘no’ out of habit.
Ask for what you want, not what you don't want.
The brain cannot process a negative command or statement' If you say to your child 'be careful, don't spill your milk' as they carry the glass full of milk across the kitchen the child has to actually think of spilling the milk so that it can take
the necessary action not to do it. We tend to get what we focus on and so by the child thinking of spilling milk that is often what tends to happen. So ask for what you want, not what you don't want.
No one likes to hear the word 'no.'
Most kids will retaliate immediately upon hearing 'no' and ignore any further explanation. If you notice that your child gets angry the instant the word 'no' comes out of your mouth, try saying it a different way.
Negative Example:
Child: 'Can I go to the movie tonight'' (When he has school the next morning)
Parent: ‘No, don’t you understand you have school tomorrow.
Positive Example:
Child: 'Can I go to the movie tonight'' (When he has school the next morning)
Parent: Yes, why not, you can go to the movie. . .on the weekend else you might miss school tomorrow. And yes, you can go outside, after you finish your homework.
Saying 'yes' and then stating the rule or conditions avoids the
harshness of the word 'no. It also helps focus the child's mind off the 'no' of the moment, to the circumstances of a future 'yes.'
Most toddlers like to explore and to take things and walk places they should not. We strongly believe that instead of saying no, parents should use alternatives,
Example:
Say 'please stop hitting the clock' or 'please move away from the stairs' instead of ‘don’t hit the clock’ or ‘don’t run down the stairs. In other words, be specific about what it is you don’t like. In about 90% of the cases, the phrase, 'Please Stop' is a perfect substitute for 'no-no'. 'No' is negating; stop is much more specific to the behavior...
Coming days we’ll learn the effective techniques of harnessing PMA.
How do you create and sustain a positive mental attitude for every moment you live'
Is it realistic to be positive in worst of the conditions; when you are denied a raise, when friends betray, when you are cheated in a relationship'
To understand this, we need to get acquainted with the functioning of the human brain in this regard.
We all know that negative inputs create negative outputs. You reap what you sow.
Messages are recorded to our memory at every moment through our five senses, viz: vision, sound, touch, taste and smell; the most profound being sound or hearing.
As we discussed above that we hear about 400 ‘no’s’ a day (excluding other negative words), which is a large number compared to the ‘yes’s’ we encounter.
We live our lives always being told what not to do rather than what to do. Means, most of the time we are programmed negatively. Moreover, whatever we speak or think is preceived by us FIRST. That’s profound negative programming if majority of our words and thoughts are de-edifying.
What age are you' In 10 years there are 12 months, in a month 30 days that’s equal to 10*12*30*400(no’s)=1440000 no’s (in 10 year’s)
How do we reverse the impact caused' You can’t .
Anything registered onto your memory through your senses cannot be erased. Your brain is an infinite GB hard drive without a format command. So how do you reverse the entire negative fed to your brain'
Dilution Is The Key
Dilute the negative with as much positive information as possible.
But where do you get these positive stimuli'
There are three distinct ways successful people around the world adapt to develop and sustain a positive mental attitude.
to be continued. . . . . .
First
Association:
Have a close look at your boss or a senior colleague; they might be 10 to 15 years ahead in their career. That’s your future if you stay with them.
You become one of those whom you associate with.
Seek the association of positive people. As the Bible says;
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed: Proverbs (13:20)
It is the single most factor which will decide your journey towards developing a PMA. Spend time with people who are more successful than you in their profession, business or family, with those who are goal oriented.
Second
Read:
What to say when you talk to yourself by Shad Helmstetter, is the book that transformed me for ever. Start with it.
Third
Speak What You Want:
As mentioned earlier, you are the first to hear what you say. If your words and thoughts are positive, you are positively programed, and vice a versa. Your mind acts as both a receiving station and a broadcasting station. You will attract those people whose character harmonizes with your own. You will attract those circumstances, which you expect to happen.
Expect good and you will have good.
Expect the best and you will have the best.
Thinking Positive: A process
‘Think positive’ is often the phrase used by some one to somebody feeling down. Most often this phrase is used without understanding it’s meaning. Positive thinking is a habit achieved through a process, not an instant change. It is said that a normal person might require a year to two to transform his attitude.
That’s the time required for dilution of the entire negative programmed in the brain all these years.
Where do you start' Refer the three points briefed above.
Say n Do
Can you afford to leave your house for work without intimating your spouse who is busy with the household chore'
‘Excuse me’ is he phrase often used when you overpass or interrupt any individual.
Don’t you call and inform your wife if you are getting late from work due to some unavoidable reason'
Its common understanding to say, or inform and then proceed to do a task where other individuals are involved with us.
This brings in proper communication and avoids any misunderstanding on the part of the other individual involved (spouse, colleague, children etc)
Also it is a mark of respect to those around us, isn’t it'
Then why don’t we follow the same with our infants and toddlers'
Can you imagine the amount of trauma an infant undergoes when you start undressing or dressing him without intimation'
Imagine somebody harshly patting your back to remove the dirt but without informing you.
What does a child undergo when you take him in the bathtub without educating him of the temperature change his body will undergo.
Imagine some body spilling a glass of cold or hot water over your body.
To Do:
Always say and then do what ever you do to your child. Whether it is untying his pants or simply carrying him from place A to place B, bathing him or applying talcum powder.
This prepares his mind for the activity and you can expect a favorable responses or less resistance.
Secondly it shows respect and dignity towards your child as you treat him as human rather than an object.
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